Self-motivation in times of change

There are two levels of self-motivation: first, today is the day, "task level motivation" to accomplish routine activities, and then there is the "big picture motivation" needed to get you through situations of significant imposed changes that have significant and perhaps dramatic effects on your life.

Our focus is on the self-stimulation needed to cope with the "big picture".

I am terrified that I will lose everything …

Your business is declining and you are worried that this might involve you …

Your organization is reorganizing and you're facing a lot of unwelcome changes in your career …

You're in a lot of financial pressure …

You run your own business and owe considerable money to big customers or customers – and you've just heard that they went bust …

You know what I'm talking about – you might be experiencing this now.

In all these types of stressful situations, it can be very difficult to maintain motivation yourself. In my experience, the tendency is to try some kind of action – to do something – whatever.

This invariably follows the mass of thought – the thought that we find hard to stop – the thought that keeps us awake at night – the thought that rings in circles – a kind of thinking that begins to receive and dominate our minds.

Underneath all this thinking is a great emotion – invariably negative, anxious, fearful feelings – feelings of stress – feelings of overwhelming feeling.

The compulsive need to "do something"

And then comes the urge, the need, the compulsion to "do something".

But there really isn't much if anything we can do – because there is so much uncertainty about the whole situation, there are so many unknowns, and we have no way of understanding how this thing will play out out.

Then comes the painful realization that we have no control – that an unwelcome change is imposed upon us.

As this reality sinks into it, there are usually other rounds of frantic thinking coupled with urgent and challenging feelings about anxiety and insecurity.

How do we encourage ourselves when we do not know what to do?

Here are four key steps in how to allow our self-stimulation to survive the corrected changes and to bring them renewed and transformed.

[1] Choose our response to the imposed change. It all comes down to these 3 simple choices:

– We can stand it and increase our suffering

– We can adapt to it and develop new reaction

– We can accept it [19659002] [2] Dealing With Our Thoughts

Your state and the quality of your mind have a great impact on the quality of your life experience and very specifically on your ability to manage personal change.

– We need to learn how to change the way we think so that we can maximize our ability to think in the most constructive and positive way.

– We have to learn how NOT to think – that is to stop thinking – and can do it at will.

[3] Understanding the stages of the transformation we are going through

It is very helpful to realize clearly defined levels that we will go through emotionally and psychologically as we integrate internally to the external change that is being imposed on us.

– Omitting "how things were" and "what was" – this is really about practicing deep affirmation

– The Neutral Zone (aka "Dark Night of the Soul") – where nothing seems make a lot of sense and it's so much unknown and we just blindly find our way forward where the key points of inner psychological reflection are happening within us – and we really have to accept the deep confusion and uncertainty that comes with it [19659002] we develop a new perception of our self – perhaps a new self-image and it is accompanied by a feeling of new and increased energy, a new sense of purpose and experience of powerful self-motivation that makes change begin to work

[4] Understanding the true nature and purpose of our struggle and suffering

Suffering and struggle are built into the path of the universe.

However, with a deep affirmation of what is put on us and by developing a calm mind and thus allowing clarity, we will, if we allow it, finally find and contradict the true nature and purpose of our struggle and Suffering is constructive and transformative, it states the true nature of "who we really are and why we are here" and it reveals a path to real and lasting personal change and transformation.


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