Often we do things and regret that we do not want to. We also find that responding quickly and impetuously to situations that, with a little time to think, we might see much better.
Steve Peters, the psychiatrist, who worked with Victoria Pendleton and Sir Chris Hoy, has set a model for explaining the neurological knowledge behind it, as well as suggesting ways to control emotional bits that often come along. ; not that it is bad, but sometimes we prevent immediate emotional reaction to doing what we really want.
The brain is rather complicated and understands that it is not easy. However, by focusing only on certain parts of the brain and what they do, Peters gives a model that is reliably easy to help. He emphasizes the front cover, parietal and limbic.
The front panel is connected to control your movement but also with higher row operations. Your ability to plan and make decisions is based on your ability to justify and make judgments. The prefrontal cortex also looks after your personality and behavior. This is what Peters reflects as a human being, what you think you are.
The parietal lobe, which in the book is called Computer, is responsible for managing speech, processing information and awareness or knowledge. There is a storage area and much of what you do automatically is processed through here very quickly. This provides some stability and helps control internal conflicts or even prevent them from happening.
Finally, the limbic system is what allows you to have feelings of pleasure and other emotions such as fear or anger. It is especially related to your instincts and also has links to food, sex and protection. This is the brain area called Chimp in the book of poetry "Chimp Paradox" by Dr. Peters.
Some of these bits in the brain are able to take control of you on their own but they can also work together. However, you often find that they are in conflict; this feeling when part of you wants one thing and another part of you and you have a debt in yourself about what you really have to do. This is mainly between chimpanzee and man.
The chimp is the emotional machine within you as the purpose of life is to make sure you live in the jungle in this world. It looks at things that look like real chimpanzees, in black and white terms with no gray areas in between. It can be annoying and often jumps into an opinion based on emotions and impressions. It can easily become persuasive and catastrophic, considering that the worst assets will actually happen. Once it has acknowledged the threats, it will use a fight, flight or freeze as a way to deal with it. The Chimp in you is governed by the laws of the jungle, with drifts and instincts. This is not always a helpful way to deal with situations you find yourself in, nor is it how the rest of your brain wants to work.
The & # 39; human & # 39; part of the brain obviously wants to work in quite a different way to the chimp. She wishes to act according to the laws of society and is driven by things such as morality, ethics and conscience to achieve her goal of fulfillment. If you want to be honest and legitimate or handled or have self-control, all you have in mind is because it fits in with the social agenda. When one has dismissed facts and evidence in a logical way, one has to make decisions that fit this agenda to succeed, but within the community they live in.
Conflict  It is easy to see that these two bits of the brain are in opposition to how they want to live and respond to situations. One will interpret events with emotions and impressions and using emotional thinking will create an answer. The other will experience the same event but check the facts and then apply logic, come up with a completely different answer. If this happened simultaneously and you were simply introduced with two options, you could choose your human or chimp. However, the chimp is much stronger and faster and, in a direct battle between two options, will always work. Also, the event information first goes to the chimpanzee and then the reaction always takes place before the person gets the opportunity to work things out. This means that in order to go the way you want, you need to find ways to control your isolation so that it does not simply struggle with internal struggles and runs your life in the jungle – fighting with others, fleeing the perceived bad situation or freezing and not letting you do anything.
Managing Your Emotions
The first step to managing your emotions is to explain which of the two bits of the brain is in charge. If you have unwelcome feelings or thoughts, it's probably the chimp. If you ask yourself, "I want to feel like that (or think this)?" and the answer is not & # 39; then the man in you is not in control. If that were the case then obviously choose to find other more selected items. Other tags are if you start monitoring & # 39; what if … & # 39; scenario and thinking worst (ie, chimp horror) or if you realize you are determining your action as a direct result of how you feel.
Once you have realized that you have taken over, you need to understand and accept the system and its rules. Because the chimp brain is so much stronger and faster than humans, it cannot simply be overused. Will power only work for you when it is activated to the emotional power of the chimp – it loses yourself the fight and you change the unwanted actions the person was trying to avoid (but it worked well for the chimpin "way to be). The patient may not always be active, but when conditions are calm and unconventional, it will not interfere with sleep quietly, but if it detects any kind of threat, it will immediately take control. The upcoming presentation you're about to make is considered to be dangerous to your health and well-being, and so the chimp feels that it needs to act in some way to protect you – it will come up with a proposal and offer it to people as soon as possible Please check the word & # 39; bid & # 39; – it doesn't control or force – but if you simply reject a bid Inside, the pimp will get even more turmoil, which will make you feel worse.
From a bid, you must first chimp and give what it needs. This will calm it down. Whether you need to be safe or eat or whatever, you can provide it in a healthy, civilized way that meets both you and the chimp. Then you have to put things to control the chimp when it calms down a little. First, you can allow yourself to move around and release all the experienced feelings until it's finished. Then you can create Chinese by telling it the truth – because it has calmed down, it will receive some unpalatable things better now. Sometimes you can go straight there if it is quiet, but often you have to close it down first and darken. Finally, you need to provide interference or rewards to fully satisfy it; Maybe doing something other than distracting or organizing a chimp-in prize, so it happens to you to do the work first.
Whatever the situation you want to work with your emotional ideas & # 39; Don't fight it – in battle it will overpower you. Recognize when it takes over and do something about it today. Managing your caretaker is essential for your continued success.