How to be more positive about what happens
Positive emotions (thoughts) lead to positive emotions. Negative meanings (thoughts) lead to negative emotions. Positive thoughts do not give rise to negative emotions and negative thoughts do not give rise to positive emotions. Negative emotions weaken you spiritually, emotionally, and sometimes even physically.
Let's refer to positive meanings as green thoughts (give them "ahead") and negative thoughts as red thoughts (stop them in their laws).
In life, strive to get green light whenever you can. You are happy when you get them and they keep you going. Red light, on the other hand, causes unnecessary delays, slows down your progress and can cause you to be stressed. The same goes for green thoughts and red thoughts.
Almost at the peak of our personal growth lies a place where you can view events with the abolition and either red or green thinking about it. I got really excited in one or two cases that I have been able to do. The rest of the time I use methods to be aware of the meaning I have put on events and other methods to make sure I choose to put green rather than red meaning to the event. Successful people, giving power to the meaning of events and challenges, are easier to overcome while you are positive rather than negative.
Since the ultimate success of any event in your life is your personal growth, you can always find green meaning to apply even the worst event. For example, a green conclusion could be another lesson learned, more understanding, stronger nature, or greater wisdom gained.
For example, an arsonist burned a block of classrooms at a local school. Like the trauma to the children and the parents, the fee for the teachers was even more serious. One of the teachers lost 25 years of teaching and was so shocked by the event being around campfires and BBQs distressed her. She was possibly unable to teach at school and went on stress freedom. Next year, her long-term relationship failed, she moved home and took custody of her children. I saw her two years later and asked how she was going. She smiled and said, "Out of the ashes of despair, grow the plants off a new start. I am now teaching grade 2 in another school with lovely children, my spouse and I have a homosexual relationship, my new little house is very beautiful, I have started to yoga and meditate and I feel much more at peace than I have before. I suspect that the fire has given the wind under my wings. "So how are you putting green rather than red meaning to the event? There are several ways to empower yourself by turning red thoughts into green thoughts and translating them into a more positive event:
- Use challenge thoughts.
- The art of review.
- Using a positive language.
- Ask yourself better questions.
- Judge conditions in another way.
- Accept gratitude.
You will be happier if you always seek to find the silver lining in each cloud and rejoice that the cup is half full rather than treating the fact that the cup is half empty. You are responsible for the meaning you place on the event. You can choose to place either positive beneficial meaning on an event or a negative non-meaningful meaning.
1. Challenge thoughts
Challenge thoughts are thoughts that inspire your thinking. When you have a red thought (and we all do), the best thing to do is challenge the thought behind the red thought and turn it into green thinking.
Challenge thoughts are thoughts like:
- Is this true?
- Am I exaggerating?
- Did I do my best?
- Why do I think this is true?
- What examples can I find doing this right?
For example, Jolie finds herself in front of the TV on Friday night. She thinks, "I'm so losing. I have no friends." This is a red thought. As soon as Jolie realizes that she has got a red thought, she can challenge the thought by asking herself: "Is it true? She will then get the information she needs to change the red thinking into green thinking. to think more than positively, then she can assume she is no longer alone on Friday night.
We're not going back, we & # 39. Just try to go to others direction. "- S. Patton
When you have challenged your red thinking, you use an audit to turn red thoughts into green thoughts and avoid getting into negative or inadequate emotions. In a nutshell, simply look at the situation with green glasses rather than with red glasses.
Life always gives us the ability to restart red thoughts in green thoughts. Those weeks that are the most difficult, the most difficult employers, they break ups that tear our heart into small p ie. These are the moments that offer us the greatest opportunities for self-study and growth. When the pain has ended, the moments we can be grateful for. They mostly contributed to our personality, our courage, and ourselves. For this reason, any event with more than one perspective can always be viewed.
Example # 1
One is driving his new sports car along the winds. Wind blows through the hair and it feels good about life. A young boy on the side of the road throws a stone in his car. The outraged man stops his car and storms over to the young boy. His muscles are tied and his jaw is dense from the secretion time of anger that surges through him.
When the man approaches, he notices that a young boy is hurt, he appears to be in shock and has tears in his eyes. The young boy says, "I'm sorry I longed for that rock on the car's master. We had an accident and our mom is stuck in the car at the bottom of the hill. To help you stop and help us."
Example # 2
One day, a donkey walked by watching a butterfly floating in the sunshine when it fell down a well. The farmer came to investigate the noise the donkey was making and was very afraid to learn that his donkey had dropped into the well. He kept for a long time, but could not see any way to rescue donkeys from the well.
After some time he found out:
- The youth would be missed but the farmer could live without him;
- The donkey would smell very bad if it is left to die at the bottom of the well;
- The well had released itself and was quite dangerous; and The best solution would be to fill the well with impurities. This would stop a horrible smell from soon becoming a dead donkey and would make sure of safety.
Then the farmer and his neighbors began to fill the well with dirt. They said about life and the weather as they longed for a shovel after a shovel of dirt in the well.
At first, the donkey was outraged by insult and the farmer's decision had made. His terror grew with every dirty cloth and pain he did when he hit him on his back. Then the ass realized that the pain from the dirt that fell back would not kill him. He also realized that if he looked at his body, dirt fell off, landed on the ground and he could stand on him.
The farmers continued to rinse the dirt in the well and the donkey continued to shake it. Sometimes farmers were surprised to see donkey ears rising out of the hill.
Sample # 3
Suzanne did not have the skills she needed to get a part-time government promotion. She had never achieved successful employees or had any experience in promoting or managing meetings. The one she shared with was on leave and she had to work full time for two weeks. During this time, some major political policy changes took place and a seriously inadequate employee had to go through a formal warning process.
Her supervisor, who had usually dealt with these tasks, became ill at the same time. Therefore, Suzanne had to do the following tasks she had never done before:
- Take the inadequate employee with a formal warning process;
- Draft documents and present them to the Minister of Government; and
- Board meeting for 50 people, including the Minister of Government and 40 senior officials.
At the end of two weeks, she told me she had only survived the worst two weeks of her life. It wasn't until I told her: "Didn't you know two weeks just to apply for your promotion?" she smoked.
How do you reflect your perspective on the situation? Once again, it is as simple as pulling you up and asking yourself questions like:
- "What else does this condition mean?"
- "What is another view of this situation?"
- "What is another danger that might have been caused by this situation?"
- "What is a positive departure that might come from this situation?"
Example # 1
Suppose a father does not allow his teenage daughter to feast with his friends. The youth sees it as well. "My father doesn't love me and he doesn't care if I'm humiliated in front of my friends."
The adolescent might ask himself, "What else is that this event could have?"
She could do it: "He loves and cares for me so much that he wants me to be safe and with the right boundaries."
Sample # 2
Tell one father of two desires to start their own business. The father sees the situation as: "I might not be able to start my own business because I am a single father."
He might ask himself, "What is another point I could take on this situation?"
He might conclude: "Anyone who can raise two children on their own and be there for them 24/7 has the persistence and commitment needed to run a successful business."
3. Use a positive language
Another way to adopt a positive perspective is to use a positive language. Our unconscious thoughts do not admit negatives such as "not", "not", "should not" etc.. If I tell you, "Don't think about your left elbow." What did you think about? That's right, left your elbow. If I tell you, "Don't think of a big fluffy teddy bear with a red bow." What did you think about? That is correct. To even sense the teaching, you need to think about what you should not think about. By using the negative impact on your language (including self-talk), you will focus on what you are trying to avoid.
For example, if you say to yourself, "I'm not thinking about how far I'm in debt", then how far in debt are you exactly what you have focused on.
However, if you frame your inner suicide positively with what you want to focus on, you have to have the right focus and perspective rather than negative about what you don't want to focus on. The same principals have here to set goals.
For example, when you go to a grocery store, choose to say "Remember the bread" rather than "Don't forget the bread."
This technology works equally well when talking to other people. For example, you see a four-year-old leap on the couch. Instead of saying, "Don't jump on the couch", put it positively in terms of the behavior you want. You might try, "Hold the floor and come here for a hug", "Hold the trampoline instead" or "Get off the coach and play on the floor".
4. Ask yourself more Questions
We have already seen the power of using questions to help us challenge red thoughts and reflect us on taking a positive view of events. The way you ask yourself also affects the perspective you take on situations.
Questions like "Why can't I do this?" prerequisite:
- There is something to do; and
- You can't do that.
Questions like "How can I easily do this work?" prerequisite:
- It can work;
- There are many ways to do that; and
- That you can easily do that.
For example, say you're worried about your weight. If you ask yourself, "Why am I so fat?" Egypt "How can I not be fat anymore?" you have spent your weight on your weight (problem) rather than on the solution. Questions like this continue to refresh your experience of yourself being fat.
It is useful instead of asking yourself a question like, "How am I going to be fit, healthy and strong?" Question like this is more useful for your feelings, thoughts, and self-esteem as expected:
- It is possible for you to be fit, healthy and strong.
- There are many different ways in which you can achieve this goal for yourself.
- You can do that.
- It can be done easily.
The power of asking the right question is very much seen in the history of Stanislavsky Lech. He was imprisoned in Nazi concentration camps during World War II. After other people told him that it was not possible, he continued to ask himself how he could speed up. By doing so, he kept fleeing open as an option in his life. Those around him had ruled it out as potential in their lives and stopped seeking ways to escape.
Sometimes the answer came to him. He proclaimed naked, climbed to the back of the truck, which was loaded with dead bodies from the gas chamber and hurried.
5. Considerable circumstances
"No pressure, no diamonds." – Anonymous
When we consider whether a situation or an event is positive or negative, we do it by comparing it to something else. We compare situations like being negative when we compare it with something better. We compare the situation as positive when we compare it to something worse.
The key to maintaining a positive attitude is to be aware of the comparisons you make and choose only those who support you. In the picture below, Roman could be very happy with a little car if he'd eat it with a bike. However, he might be dissatisfied with having a small car if he'd eat it together by having the sports car spikes. How he will feel about it depends on the choice he makes.
There are always many points of view that you can choose to judge whether an event has a positive or negative impact on you.
- The turnover of millions of dollars to a small businesswoman is the cause of the celebration compared to what she did last year.
- Turnover in millions of dollars for big business is a catastrophe compared to the turnover it made last year.
- A small cottage with running water can be the most wonderful thing for tribesmen, but a terrible thing for many millionaires created 5 star hotel rooms.
How do we judge whether the situation is positive or negative and its impact on our response is beautifully depicted in a story that was released on the internet several years ago.
Example of a letter from a university student:
Dear Mom and Dad
Forgive you for so long writing but my essays were destroyed in my fire I am out of the hospital and the doctor says I should be able to lead a healthy life. Handsome young man named Pete saved me from the fire and invited me to share the apartment with me He is a very good and polite and good family, so I think you agree when I tell you we are married last week. I know you will be even more excited when you tell me you have to go to great grandmothers.
Actually, it was not fire, I had not been to a hospital, I was not married and I was not pregnant but I made my biological test mistake and I just wanted to make sure that when I said You put it in the right perspective.
6. Adopting Gratitude
6. Adopting Gratitude
Accepting gratitude also helps maintain a positive viewpoint . It is often easier to deviate from the negative terrible & # 39; condition but doing so does not strengthen you or help you get through the day. Instead, choose to find the silver lining in each cloud and embrace the blessings that come from the same situation and understand and grow from the lessons you have learned and the experience you have gained.
There are reasons to be grateful in all cases. Example # 1
- At the time of the death of a friend or family member, there is reason to be grateful for the time you have with them and the joy that they brought into your life.
- In serious illness is the opportunity for legitimate time, recovery and reflection.
- In the child with physical impairment, gratitude for the ability to share time with soul is quick, brave courageous person who may have much to teach you.
- At the loss of tangible assets there is a chance to start again.
- At the end of the relationship, there is a chance for a new beginning.
- If a company fails, the most valuable knowledge is what to do next.
Example # 2
Like another example, Andrew had been dying to Sharon for 8 years. They decided to get married. Their family members flew from different countries to the wedding. It was the night before the wedding. Andrew realized the wedding dinner that his greatest fear would be to leave the church after the wedding and see the girl he should have married. It took a lot of courage, but he got up on the wedding day and called for the wedding. This became one of the worst moments of his life, both financially and emotionally. Three weeks later he injured himself while playing a sport and was hospitalized. His ancestors visited him in a hospital and told him he was just getting his desserts. About half an hour later, the nurse changed the shift and into his room, the nurse he married went. If he hadn't been courageous and lived through the difficult times of breaking his wedding, he could never meet his companions. (His ancestor also met his companions a few months later).
Example # 3
Julianne was repeatedly molested during her adolescence. She might have asked people for compassion and used it as a justified excuse or reason to make sure that things in their lives didn't go out. Instead, today she can return to this event and be grateful because she gave her the drive, stubbornness and determination to succeed and prove herself worthy of love and respect.