How to discover your inner talents

I believe everyone has an innate ability – skills that they have innate ability, but "I'm not particularly talented in anything", a phrase that I often hear from my training job.

The statement appears to be from the view that the value of the mark is "talented", talent or ability must be both specific and approved by the public. So we freely consider LeBron James to be a talented basketball player or Meryl Streep talented actress. But we do not see our own behavior that reflects unique talents.

It is true that one dictionary definition of "talent" is the ability to perform skills better than most. But I think it's more likely that the most common comparison to judge talent is external – "How is my ability to compare XXX to everyone's suitability to make XXX?" – rather than internal one – "How is my ability to compare XXX with my ability to do YYY?"

It may look like a small team, but the conclusion is that many people ask themselves: "Do I have a talent?" rather than more constructive – and more specific – a question of, "What talent do I have?"

I believe that all have talent and I define them as what you do well and that you can do good because you have developed your natural skills that you were born with.

I believe that people find the greatest sense of success and satisfaction by using their natural abilities. Luckily, most people enjoy doing what we are talented with. We just need to discover what they are!

It's surprising that just because you prefer this activity and role, it does not mean you know them as talent. For a variety of reasons we are often ignorant of our talents, or we release them as "nothing special".

When we see what we're doing, it's easy for us, like "ordinary" or "something somebody can do" losing understanding of what makes us unique. Discovering our talent is an important key to opening the door to success.

Success is achieved when you know, demand and use your talents. By understanding and evaluating your abilities, you can find the environment as they are evaluated. And release behaviors and roles that do not come to the same level of joy and accomplishment.

Recognizing what you are particularly talented in doing is the first step to claim to yours. Taking another step means consciously finding new opportunities to use them.

Take the time to think about what you do as others compliment or ask you to help them – especially what you think is ridiculously easy and they think it's difficult.

Select one or two skills you've identified and think about using them now. When you're happy start increasing your chances. What are some new ways you can take advantage of this talent?

Make sure you're using your new-talent skills as often as possible next week. Once you have chosen a vote, select another from your list. Keep moving down the list until you have required all your skills!


Nobody has the power to define you

Several years ago, when I was an interpreter, I went to the city where I grew up to translate into a medical conference. The evening before the parliament, I walked on the street when I jumped into the woman who had been a classroom teacher for two years at the beginning of my teenager. We chatted for a while and got a little on each other. Then she asked me what I was doing in town, as she thought I had moved abroad. I told her I was working as an interpreter and had a conference the next day.

Her entire expression immediately changed and scanned me from head to toe, almost barking: & # 39; Do not lie to me. Only highly intelligent people can be interpreters. You never been good enough. So stop lying! & # 39;

This woman had been teaching a classroom for two years. Can you imagine?

This poor woman had never seen me. I was so different from everything she had ever experienced, that she could only put me in one of the known squares she knew, which had to be where she put "not very intelligent students". No wonder why I was so bored at school! No wonder why I did not have a good grade! I trust her judgment and believed me to be what she showed me of myself. After all, she should know better!

It was not until a few years later that I moved away and had to defend myself at a university in another country. Nobody knew me. No one had any premises, expectations from me. Thus I did what I could, which had to reach excellent levels and continued at university level.

Unfortunately, many classmates and schoolmates did not have similar features. They were convinced that the limited vision of other people was defined who they were. And this limited vision was repeated in those who had a significant impact on their growth.

Human beings sometimes grow into what others see, not in a person they really are, because they trust them so much, for some reason. What others influence reflect us become the image we will see ourselves .

The good news is that it can change in an instant. You, like another person, have the power to look into yourself and get rid of the precautions and misinterpretations that are relevant to the one you truly are. Stop judging yourself as others believed or said once. Look at you again and remove any unintended restrictions from others. The chances are, they could not see you differently because of your own limitations.

Give yourself the gift of freedom today. Do not wait for one day. Just look into you and stop listening to the words that others have said about you. Instead, look for your own words; try to catch a little voice that sometimes tries to express itself in the back of the head and say … but … & # 39; Save yourself from old, unwanted burdens and have a new look at your actual. What are your true limits, if anything? What are your true strengths and virtues? And your talents? What is what you would definitely do to your life? Take control of who you are now. Give yourself permission to express all the beautiful visits to become the one who should be. I know it might sound terrible at first; After all, you've been the one you show the world for years now. But think about it this way … are you not tired of never feeling very happy? You may also need assistance to do this. Ask for it. Learn and apply the tools and methods that make it easier for you to understand and handle your old attitude. Any good person or coach could help you.

No one has the right to tell you who you are. This right is yours only. No one has the power to define yourself. Rebuild these powers now and make it incredibly beautiful before you are finally what it was supposed to be.

Enjoy life, all that,


ฟาน ไดค์ ลั่น พร้อมสู้เพื่อแชมป์ลีก

เฟอร์กิล ฟาน ไดค์ กองหลังชาวดัตช์ของ ลิเวอร์พูล สโมสรดังของลีกสูงสุดอังกฤษ ประกาศลั่นทุ่งว่า หลังจากนี้เขาพร้อมลุยเต็มที่ เพื่อพาทีมเก็บ 3 คะแนนสำคัญทุกนัดให้ได้ แม้หลังจากนี้เขาต้องทำงานหนักมากขึ้นหลายเท่าก็ตาม ทั้งนี้เจ้าตัวย้ำว่าฤดูกาลนี้เขาเชื่อว่า ทัพเครื่องจักรสีแดง มีสิทธิ์ลุ้นแชมป์รายการต่างๆ ในวงการลูกหนังไม่ยาก โดยเฉพาะอย่างยิ่งรายการพรีเมียร์ลีก

ปัจจุบัน หงส์แดง กำลังรั้งอันดับ 2 ของตารางคะแนนรายการดังกล่าว โดยมีคะแนนตามหลัง แมนเชสเตอร์ ซิตี้ ที่ 2 แต้ม จากการลงสนามทั้งหมด 12 นัด ดังนั้นตอนนี้พวกเขายังมีโอกาสลุ้นแชมป์รายการดังกล่าวเหมือนเดิม เพราะยังเหลือเกมการแข่งขันอีกหลายนัด ที่พวกเขาต้องลุยต่อไป ก่อน ฟาน ไดค์ ออกโรงยืนยันชัดเจนว่า หลังจากนี้เขาต้องการให้ทุกคนมีสมาธิกับเกมมากขึ้น เพื่อชัยชนะต่อไป

“ผมยังเชื่อว่าทีมของเรายังมีโอกาสคว้าแชมป์พรีเมียร์ลีกเหมือนเดิม เพราะถึงตอนนี้เรากำลังรั้งอันดับ 2 ของตารางคะแนน แต่อย่าลืมว่าเราเพิ่งลงสนามแข่งขันไปแค่ 12 นัดเท่านั้น ดังนั้นเรายังมีโอกาสเก็บชัยชนะอีกหลายนัด ซึ่งตอนนี้ผมย้ำว่าพร้อมลุยเต็มที่ เพื่อพาทีมของเราคว้าแชมป์ให้ได้ และไม่ได้มีเพียงแค่รายการเกมลีกเท่านั้น ที่ผมต้องการพาทีมคว้าแชมป์ แต่รวมไปถึงรายการใหญ่ของยุโรปอย่าง ยูฟ่า แชมเปี้ยนส์ ลีก ด้วย”


How does it seem to be heavy?

Depression can be diagnosed with symptoms and symptoms. They may vary from person to person, and sometimes they may not even be a sign of depression at all but only normal little moments. If you're not sure about the overwhelming and inactive emotions, check out the following: unexplained pain and pain, weight problems, enthusiasm and energy, self-harm, appetite or weight changes, irritability and restlessness, and feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. These are symptoms and signs of depression. Depression just seems terrible! So, how does it really feel depressed?

First, it seems like being in a dark and sad chasm. Suddenly you think life is not worth living anymore. Ironically, what became worthless and useless now gains importance. You are constantly restless even when you are sleeping. Some people who are depressed may even wish death on them because of intolerable feelings of pain and sensibility. You are losing interest in what you want and you lose your purpose in life. You do not feel the meaning of what you are doing in modern times and you resist what you love to do. Since the present is painful undesirable, the future automatically appears ink and threatening.

The face for the present and denial of the future follows the minimum of stamina and energy. You just do not look like doing anything. All you do is forced. Within you, there is an endless emotional battle and you just feel so divided and vulnerable. Giving up everything and giving in to anything is just like the sides of the same twisted coin. You lose your ability to filter information mentally or analyze objectively. The feeling of believing and accepting anything negative is high. You just do not seem to argue. Worse, you will be suddenly too high and sensitive. You can even cry for any reason for any reason or for no reason.

These painful feelings make you look like being in deep and dark holes, there's a rocky or bottomless abyss. You wonder when you come out of it or whether it's worth coming out or not. But dear, try to climb, even if it does, it can mean nothing at the moment and even if you get the power to do it. When you are in depression, it is often useful to contend with you. When you are depressed, it may be healthy not to believe you because you are not right now. Find help outside of you. Recognize your need to help, even if it means nothing.

Secondly, when depression feels you are worthless and even useless. Your self-esteem affects what you have found, broken, painful and suffering. Your tremendous feeling in vain is often accompanied by a feeling of absolute irrelevant. Suddenly, your self-image disappears, and it is a gnawing feeling of unexplained pain and pain in relation to who you think you are. These are submissive voices that reverberate from the furniture itself, which is the need for support and limit values, whether they are emotional, moral or spiritual. They become stronger as you think you're on a shaking and plunging ground.

You think you're no longer the same person and are shocked that you're no longer. Lack of self-esteem causes self-esteem. You hate yourself for doing or not doing things within the scope of grateful behavior. It's worse if you've learned to put blame on yourself and hamper your conscience through the ethics of the courts. They can lead to unhealthy guilt and self-sufficiency. Because depression is subject to reverse reactions it is not uncommon for depression to hate itself. Needless to say, depression is a major risk factor for suicide. The great despair and hopelessness are crying help.

If not seen, it can make a suicide description the only way to escape pain. So again, if you are depressed you need help. You just have to admit that you are not fully able to get rid of this trap, at least this moment in your life. It's not easy to be and appear sensitive, especially if you're used to seeing yourself as strong, independent and sustainable. What you need is to learn how to deal with depression in a healthy way and you will come out of it better and stronger than before. But first, accept your help.

That's it. Feelings of depression are among the worst blows that life can give you. But with depression and putting it behind you is among the best gifts you can give your life. There is hope in the midst of depression.


Never let the world make you hugely because it's not worth losing yourself

Create your own inner sanctuary of peace

If you have a chance, the world will spend your cruelty and make you believe that life is unlimited. Everywhere we turn nowadays, bad news is to remind us of the terrible state of the world. We live in the most adventurous period of this century, but at the same time. Press releases are sent to our living room 24 hours a day, seven days a week. With the rise of social media, it has become more common to consume news on mobile phones. I avoid reading newspapers or watching the news because of the negativity she sends out. But sometimes we can not escape. For example, I have been watching TV shows and breaking the news magazine pays my attention. Immediately I am unconsciously taken from a peaceful state to a superfluous man without knowing why.

Have you ever felt the news? While I do not intend to criticize the media, we have a choice whether we subscribe to information or focus on issues that are more important in our lives. The world is a way to make us cruel because it employs humanity when we focus on ourselves and not more society. We have become inseparable for human sufferings, it is now common in our lives. Computer games continue through rational violence and young people are unaware of it.

So what can we do about it? How can we prevent the world from cruelty because in the long run does it mean losing fear and hatred that imposes on us? Obviously, if you read this, you personally evaluate your growth and want to become a better person. My opinion is that we must focus on what is close to our hearts and make it to our center. For example, if meditation, thinking and yoga is something you're involved in, it's ways to protect yourself from the world's negative world. It requires creating your own inner sanctuary of peace despite what is happening outside of you. We can still nurture the seeds of equality, kindness and compassion within us without leaving our value.

Our inner sense of peace and harmony

We do not need to subscribe to the drama of modern life because it makes sense to distract us from what is necessary: ​​to know our true self. The world out there will do everything in its power to confuse us from linking to our true self. This is the message that my mentor and famous international spiritual author Dennis Merritt Jones writes, writes on Re-define your moments: Become who you were : "The world really does not want you to know who you really are because when you begin to live unsuccessfully, the world loses much of your control over you and your behavior. It will do everything in your power to keep you in a dream state where the source of your self-image depends on which one , "out there" on the surface of life rather than what lies inside you in the middle. "

We are not one of these things because these are genuine narratives scattered without our consent. Certainly, we could buy in now and again because they have the following way of getting our attention and grabbing us at the moment. So when I'm distracted from breaking news while watching TV, I became worried and entertained thoughts of fear and insecurity. But ok, I was peaceful.

How do you find your inner sanctuary through the mess of everyday life? What daily practices or rituals do you take part in balancing yourself? The key is to focus on these methods and come home to them often because they are our safe haven for a peaceful life. I do not believe the world is a cruel place, as I appreciate the devilishness and interplay of our earthly existence. That's how we emphasize our attention that marks our spiritual landscape. We can choose fear and welcome states, or rely on the internal refugee of peace and harmony to unite the world's negativity. If there are more people in peace, fear has no place to live. Finally, it is not us to allow the world to make us cruel because it will pull us all the way and we will not know how we got there. We must not miss the cruelty but unite with a strange magnificent spiritual self.


Discover Your Goal – Know Your Skills and Skills (5 Tips)

The gift of man makes room for him and brings him to great men (Proverbs 18:16). The abilities and abilities are gifts from the above as your position to promote and enhance. I am astonished at the number of people who struggle to name their dominant talent. By saying, do you know what you are working with? The corresponding article in this article provides five tips to help you evaluate important information.

5 Tips

Review your accommodation.

Think about two or three of your biggest achievements. Each individual defines performance differently. Unfortunately, too many understand that someone else interprets. Here I ask you to decide.

Write a short narrative about each. Explain the situation. What was the challenge? Equally important, what was your role. Discuss how you matter. How does your impact affect others? What type of feedback did you receive? How did you feel about the process and the results? When you set the narrative, rely on the reporter method (who, what, when, where, why and how).

Enter the skills that were used.

The ability solve problems. Like the black bag transported by the doctor who calls a house, you get your skills wherever you go. Employers employ or have an agreement with you because of them. Here, what skills contributed to your success in the past or recent efforts. Register. Do not over think it.

Regarding those who read this and thinking, "I have no skill" keep the pressure. Everyone has talent; They vary from person to person. Contact your supervisor, mentor or mentor to help you develop your list. Another option is to start listing all the abilities you have, either it contributed to success or not.

By the way, do not confuse skills with personal qualities or trains. The latter, for example, describe you. You could be reliable or patient. Skill on the hand is related to talent.

Focus on Top 3.

Next, call top three or dominant talent. How do you know their importance? You are following patterns. Key skills always seem to play a key role in what you do. Wherever you go, these skills also go.

Sort them.

Although you have superior skills, they do not share the same level of strength. One against others. In your case, how do they evaluate? What talent is supreme? Ordering is important because dominating capabilities are most successful.

Verify your talents.

Take your abilities seriously. God does it. Why do you think the parable of talent appears in the Bible? Apart from knowing what it is, it is expected to be used.

What are your gifts or talents? Yes, you have the ability to do something. Do not overlook or take what you have received for granted. In God's eyes, no talent is insignificant.

While we are in this matter, our desire is to leave the lane. Let the gift fall aside (as you do something you have not done) waste time and talent. Do not disappoint yourself. Furthermore, what you respect grows.


Lessons People Should Learn – But Not!

I have noticed, sometimes and unusual phenomenon: People offer them exactly what they are afraid of. In other words, how they have is exactly the way that brings them up as they say they rather do not experience!

Example 1: Fear of anger

Linda is afraid of anger. She is "afraid of death" that others are angry with her. Whatever this is because her mother is angry with her early or not, it does not matter. What matters is that she will do all she can to prevent others from being angry with her.

To achieve this "goal" she always behaves in a relationship as her spouse wants her to behave. And she volunteer volunteers at work to work more than others, just so everyone will resemble her so that no body gets angry with her for one reason or another.

But here's the force: She never keeps in touch, either with her family or with her close friends. This makes them angry at the time and again. Even when she realizes she has not contacted them for a month, she still does not contact and fear that she will be angry with her for contacting them before.

Example 2: Fear of Disappearance

Amy has taken an infinite workshop in her attempts to cope with her fear of rejection. Yet she never keeps in touch with her friends, either by phone or by e. mail. When asked about her, she justifies saying that she is "not equivalent to email" or "has not found time to call."

Most of her friends who have contacted her over the years have realized that they need to send it at least 2 or 3 a. mail until it responds or divorces its 2 or 3 calls until it dials again.

Some of those who became tired of "running after her" for so long have stopped trying to contact her. This makes Amy feel like "everyone rejects" her, but she is not willing to take responsibility for her behavior.

Why do people offer them exactly what they are afraid of?

Linda and Amy are "typical" examples of those who find themselves exactly what they are afraid of. They act exactly as boomerangs back on them, which means they feel exactly what they are afraid of: Linda does everything to make her angry with her, but Amy behaves in a way that keeps her emotions.

Lessons People Should Learn – But Not!

Why did people do it "to do it"? Why did not they learn what they should learn?

The reason is that many people are not aware of how they interact with others. Their fear draws them in exactly the way that causes them to be afraid of first place. This is how they "know themselves"; This is the "self-image" that they have created for themselves: Lose themselves as others are angry with; Amy looks like a woman who is always recovering. Both are afraid to change their lives, as they do not know "who will become if they change".

This sounds a little strange, but the truth is that many people are in line with the image they have developed for themselves, and even though this "self-esteem" hurts them more than they do not help tune their self-esteem behavior and make a change.

Becoming Awareness Of Your Unconscious

As examples of Linda and Amy show, such self-proclaiming rules keep on growing again and again. The problem is that those who act like Linda and Amy do it often without being aware of their behavior and for the reason to control them to have the way they do. This is how they know themselves. They do not know better.

In order to make significant and positive changes in their behavior (life, work and relationships), they need to become aware of what they have not been aware of until now.

The answer is:

* You make a conscious decision to look into and understand what drives You should have the way you do (that hurts again and again);

* You get courage to grasp the number of factors you may not have the courage to realize until now (for example, acting "offering" anger or rejection).

* You take time to reflect and reflect on the behavioral and attitude patterns you have used over the years. Such review allows you to understand what and when, "you've" achieved by behaving like you did. (As much as it might be a little ridiculous, your self-sabotaging behavior may be the way to get the attention of others – though negative!).

Being aware of what you were not aware of until now is the only way for you to start a conscious change in your behavioral patterns. Such a change will enable you to stop doing self-evacuation and free yourself from your fear of anger, rejection or fear has become part of the self-esteem you have created for yourself.


Acquire Vs Learn Religion

The question my aunt told us, children, was & # 39; How will you react when your mother dies? I remember thinking about the question and really wondering how I would respond. Many thoughts looked into mind, but aunt asked my aunt one by one.

& # 39; Oh, I will cry and cry. the first one.

& # 39; Yes, me too. I'll be so boring! & # 39;

& # 39; I will feel terrible and lonely, & # 39; was the third answer.

And then I turned around. & # 39; I do not know what I do, & # 39; I started. I think I'm waiting to see what Mom does when her mother dies and that's what I do when she comes.

My answer shocked everyone. How can you say that? & That means you do not really love your mother! & # 19; & # 39; Cold Answer! How can a daughter say something like that? "

I think I feel terrible. It was as if I had done a terrible sin. But I had told the truth, my truth. I could not imagine such situations and did not know how to respond. So I thought I would do what I had ever done before then when I did not know anything; I would learn from my mother.

Everyone was very upset with my answer. The aunt who had our inquiry was outraged.

Then my father, who usually never participated in this conversation, said slowly: "19459004 ] I'm sorry but I do not understand what's wrong lu. Jessica just said something very logical. When it's something she does not know, she looks at her mother to learn from her. She only replies that she has her mother as her model. & Nbsp;

Not even the father of the words could convince others. To them I was just an unacceptable child who did not really love her!

Today I clearly understand my own answer better. What it actually meant was that I had no chance to study and develop some opinions on this issue yet. For some reason, I did not gain faith that could lead me and waited for a new experience. As human beings, we see all the world and interpret it on the basis of experiences and lessons that we have had until the moment. Our interpretations can then be confirmed (or not) with more experience or lesson. If they are confirmed enough, we will in time turn to faith. If our interpretations are not confirmed, they will not crystallize in faith. They will not have enough support. Once faith has been established, its system becomes more subconscious until it fully integrates into our system.

As we grow up, we learn how to choose something of our own faith. We make it a little more conscious and from many other sources, so the change becomes something more controlled. We reason more and start to ask our own interpretations. But like children, most of us lack the ability to ask our interpretations and even our sources. We only accept the lesson because the source they provide is strong enough for us.

There is one exception to this pattern. Both, like children and adults, you can also create an attitude when strong feelings are present. So if we are significantly affected by something, this feeling can lead to an immediate new review or to change someone before. In the example above, I had ever seen an important loss for this conversation, I could already make some opinions about death. As it had not happened and there had been no interpretation, I had no previous faith to rely on.

This is a human process that we all use to create and validate our faith. As children, our first attitude is created by repetition, by repeating the confirmation of the interpretations we take from the safest source: our elders. If the source is not as strong as in cases of abuse, acceptance, negligence or others, the child could not develop solid faith and feel insecure or shock. When attitudes are determined in youth and firmly attached to our subconscious mind, they become less obvious, stronger, and harder to analyze and change. Therefore, some of the recognized attitudes shape our lives without being aware of their great importance.

Faith is then a bit like a language. Our mother tongue is approved. We learn it in youth, investors many, many hours of our lives to gain it. We do not look at it. We do not learn that as such. We do not make conscious effort to understand and understand. It grows into us subconsciously. The second or third language we usually learn. We'll learn them. We must understand their rules and how they work. We invest time and work hard to master them. Over time, these other languages ​​can be used by us and become a convenient communication tool. Furthermore, opinions are also like language in another way. Without continuous use, language is forgotten as fast as it was originally learned. If you get the language as you grow up, it will take you many, many hours of absolute downtime to master at the same time as to forget about it. If you learn a language later in life, you must invest a lot in courses and courses, but never as many hours as you invest in a native language and you will forget about it at the same rate as you learned. Yes, faith is a bit like that. We have the first children in childhood and learn more when we grow and the ones we confirm the longest, they are harder to change. Thus, acquired views have been more integrated and subconscious than others we learn as adults. Faith and language are endless tasks.

It can therefore be concluded that a change in recognized attitudes is much more difficult than changing learning. Actually, it's usually so. While there may be some exceptions when emotions are involved, changing familiar attitudes usually requires a lot more work than changing classes. A good, systematic process helps both of us.

The next time you speak your own opinions, do not give up and remember that some of them might be a bit harder to change because they took a longer time to study.

Enjoy life, all that,


What I've Learned about Empathy: It Reduces Conflict

Empathy is an ability to understand and what another person is experiencing from their perspective or as it is sometimes said "walking in a mile in his shoes". When we can trust others, we are in a much better position to manage conflict with them. Conflict is the natural consequence of having different views and opinions about the challenges we face today. But lack of compassion towards others can increase and increase conflicts by showing themselves as prejudices, stereotypes and bullying.

We can improve our ability to reduce and resolve conflict with a better understanding of obstacles that impede our natural reflections. An important part of our ability to keep in mind with others is our social identity – how we perceive ourselves as a group member.

Social Identity Theory (SIT) is a social psychology school that asserts that we gain a significant part of our self-esteem from the groups we belong to. SIT shows how decisions that people believe are personal, actually expression of their group image and needs of the group.

According to SIT, formation of groups takes place through three stages:

• Social Classification – Seeing yourself as part of a group (gender, race, religion, political party, etc.).

• Social Identification – Seeing Other as either to be part of your group (us) or not part of your group [þeim]

• Social Media – Seeing a Social Group (Us) Being Better to Other Groups

SIT Study Jane Elliot showed that being part of a group affects how you look at yourself and your behavior towards other groups. Elliot "Blue-eye / Brown-Eye Study" is divided into primary schools in two groups based on eye color.

Elliot said the blue eyes the children that the blue eyes meant you were better, faster and better and brave them privileges. They said to the brown eyes the children that their eyes were lazy, amazing and stupid. The blue eye group became a boss, arrogant and smarter, showing a difference in the brown eyes. The brown children became tired, submissive and performed less well academically.

They performed the roles a few days later and said the brown children as they were the "better" group. The same thing happened, this time with brown eyes that differ in blue eyes. Obviously self-esteem for the children was the role of the group they were associated with and influenced how their group interacted with the "other" group and how they acted theoretically. A PBS Frontline Documentary " A Class Replacement " is a video of this experiment for those who are interested in experiencing the impact of SIT on children.

If you see yourself as part of a social group, you must ask yourself how your group image affects your commitments, decisions, and self-esteem. I feel better about yourself because your group is "better" "better" or more "right" than another group? If so, you leave opportunities to experience compassion for others who can help reduce or eliminate conflicts.

By compassion for those belonging to different groups from your own requirements, your self-esteem is based more on your personal information than a social or group image. That means that who you are personally is more important in dealing with people than any social identity we accept as members of a group. It means that your ability to overcome differences and resolve conflict comes from a wider sense of who you are outside of a group.

It's not easy to have compassion for people from "other" groups, especially when many of your groups try to increase their self-esteem by putting down other groups. Psychologist Carl Rogers characterizes the difficulty of being empathetic in white papers entitled Empathic: An unrecognized way of being:

"Being in a different way means you make opinions and values. You hold yourself to to enter another world without prejudice. Made by a person who is confident enough in himself that he knows that he will not be lost in what may seem to be strange or strange to the world and can go back well to him when he wish it. "

Leave away your own opinions and values ​​and get into someone else's home without pre-requisites requiring the individual's personality and security that is most urgent. It's a sincere desire to respect listening to someone else. But for those who are sufficiently encouraged to step into this dark and threatening world's feelings, the rewards can be well worth it. When we can put ourselves in the shoes of others we create a bridge of understanding and compassion that can begin to cure the wide bay that understands many areas of society.

What tendency of people to associate their self esteem with a group of members, what's the way forward to improve relationships between groups? For groups like elementary school students in the Elliot study, the answer might be to guide them how their eyesight does not matter to who they are (people's self-esteem) and to encourage them with positive consent to behave as smart, caring and sympathetic.

Many methods of dealing with discrimination and prejudice can help people get their understanding of social self-esteem. If people see themselves and their neighbors as any member of a larger group, social comparison of "us" will be better than "them" ceases. Finally, the biggest group we live in is up to humanity. No matter what district, city, state or country we call our own, we all have one whole community of humans. If we all begin to see ourselves as members of the human society, our sympathy towards each other can provide the basis for overcoming many social conflicts that are facing us as individuals and collectively as residents of the world's people.


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ตลอดหลายปีที่ผ่านมา ภายใต้การสีเสื้อของ เรือใบสีฟ้า นักเตะวัย 30 ปี ยิงไปแล้ว 150 เม็ด ซึ่งตามหลัง อองรี อยู่ที่ 25 ลูก และตามหลัง รูนี่ย์ ดาวซัลโวตลอดกาลถึง 33 ประตู แต่คาดการณ์กันว่า เจ้าตัวพร้อมทำลายสถิติของนักเตะทั้ง 2 คนลงแน่นอน เพราะเขายังมีโอกาสพิสูจน์ตัวเองร่วมกับ เรือใบสีฟ้า อีกนานพอสมควร หลังเขามีพันธะผูกพันกับ เรือใบสีฟ้า จนถึงปี 2021 ซึ่งถือว่าเป็นช่วงเวลาทำให้เขามีเวลาพัฒนาตัวเองไปได้อีกนาน

“ผมโอเคนะ หลังตอนนี้เขายิงประตูให้ เรือใบสีฟ้า ทั้งหมด 150 ประตู ซึ่งผมตั้งใจว่าหลังจากนี้ผมจะยิงประตูต่อเนื่องแน่นอน โดยมีเป้าหมายหลักคือ พาทีมของเราคว้าชัยชนะให้ได้ แน่นอนว่าผลงานของผมและของทีมที่ผ่านมา ผมพอใจมากเพราะเรามีผลงานยอดเยี่ยมตามที่คาดหวังเอาไว้ ส่วนหลังจากนี้ผมตั้งใจว่าจะลุยเต็มที่ต่อไป โดยไม่คิดสนใจเรื่องสถิติ ซึ่งหากผมมีโอกาสแซงหน้า อองรี และ รูนี่ย์ จริง สถิติทั้งหมดเป็นผลพลอยได้จากความตั้งใจของผม”