A few weeks ago, when I was leaving my post office, I left with a young mom and her little girl. The little girl, who seemed to be around five, was kidding something. The mother said to her, "If you stop crying, I'll give you a cup of cake when we get home."
On her surface, the mother seemed to be harmful enough. And maybe the comment had no relation to the fact that both mom and little girl were overweight. Still, I wondered what was this mom surprised to teach her daughter?
Was she teaching her that candy is a reward for good behavior? Was she teaching her that candy is a way to prevent difficult emotions? If the child was learning either or both of these messages, she might be in a lifetime struggling with problems related to weight-related disturbance.
New client recently came to my counseling training program about her constraints. She said she knew exactly how she bought this behavior (and the fence that followed her). "When my brother and I were children, our parents told us that anyone who cleans his album first could also eat from the siblings of the album." What message did she receive about food? Perhaps it was, "eat all you can, as fast as you can, so you can eat more."
How many children have been coaxed or forced to eat more than they want, for reasons that have nothing to do with actually feeling hungry or feeling full? "You can not leave the table until you have eaten everything on your album." "You have to eat because somewhere other children are starving." "Here are some cookies and you feel better." "If you do not eat it, aunt Jane will think you do not like her cooking." Messages like these provide food with illegal labeling.
I am a coach and consultant specializing in solved treatment for routine and stress management. I help clients fight many types of behaviors, both behavioral and emotional, and, as you probably can assume, I have enough clients who deal with overweight and obesity daily.
My work has given me the opportunity to discuss with hundreds of customers about their eating habits and thoughts about food. It is not surprising to me that many overweight people stop eating food, often because they believe in food they have developed in childhood.
To have an intelligent relationship with food is to look at food as a nutrient and energy. Therefore hunger or loss of energy or strength are signs of eating. People who eat to respond to such signs are adapted to the needs of the body. They choose their food and the size of their items accordingly and without much conscious effort. They eat when they feel hungry and quit when they are full. They balance the balance of calorie oral and energy output to maintain healthy weight. People who succeed in this are clearly in the minority in America.
Individuals who stop diet disturbance do not meet their physical needs or respond to body marks. Instead, they turn to food to reduce unpleasant emotions – especially a diet that is high in fat, sugar and starch. They eat for comfort; not for nutritional value. They look at food as a prize for accomplishments or to get through difficulties. They have lost contact with physical feelings that convey hunger, they eat according to external indicators – time of day, see other people eat, smell of food, ad for food or sheetmaps that show a luscious dessert.
Because they are no longer in contact with physical feelings that indicate sweets, they do not have an intuitive measure of appropriate particle size. They do not know when to stop eating, so they overestimate and consume too much calories stored as fat.
Such eating habits lead to obesity. These practices are resistant to change because they relate to comfort, comfort and relief from stress. They supersede the great work of self-awareness and self-discipline, face difficult emotions and develop successful talent efforts – what many go on to study.
Allowed, there are other factors that promote obesity. One factor is the ready abundance of cheap, processed foods that are high in sugar, starch and fillers, low in nutritional value. A sedentary lifestyle, genetic problems, certain drugs, some diseases, and poor sleepiness tear the list out.
Never mindless, with childhood obesity more than any time in history, parents might consider the message they give their children about food. Here are three things they would do well by teaching, by word, pain and example:
• Food is for nutrition and energy. Some foods are nutritious than others.
Parents who teach this will ensure that they get enough nutritious foods for snacks and meals and describe their old children with taste of fruits and vegetables, whole grains and lean meat proteins when their children are young. Sugar and starchy foods should be rare, special occasions treat; not a daily staple.
• Eat when you are hungry. Stop eating when you feel full.
Parents who teach this will give their children a small dose and avoid battles over food. If Suzy does not eat, she can leave the table. If it's hungry later, offer a nutritious snack.
• If you find stress, talk to it, think of some options and find an affordable solution.
It takes more time and effort to talk about things with unhappy children than to ask him or her for a treat or toy. Yet age-old water solution is a worthwhile teaching experience.
Finally, if you have a surplus because you eat according to external evidence in your close environment or to have such feelings or to reward you or because you do not know when you stop eating then sometimes it and # 39. time to explore your own opinions about food and its meaning. You may want to review and replace unwanted messages you received about food when you were young. You could then grow an intelligent relationship with food.