Personal growth is never easy, especially if you're looking for more than just here or here. If you've been in a situation or point in your life where you want major decisions or overall changes, you can only figure out how absolute and losing things can work, even when you want to change. To be a surprise is not unusual and you should not feel like a failure if you are surprised to know what to do. This is actually pretty normal for almost everyone who has landed on a level as they realize that their life is far from where they want it.
The solution to this is rather straight forward, but that does not mean it's easy. Goals like "I want more self-esteem," "I do not want to be so scared," or "I need to be safer" are great goals, but they do not give you any help in getting to them. Things like fear, self-esteem, self-esteem and self-esteem can be very clear ideas.
To achieve these goals, you need to start with small concrete actions that will at least point you in the right direction. What causes low self confidence? If it's bad teeth, work extra jobs or an hour to fix your teeth. If you get anxious around people, practice chatting with strangers until you become more comfortable with it. Learn the skills. Join a club. Do something better.
Add value to your life. This can start in a small way like learning a new art or craft, reading a book about something you've always wanted to learn or decide to go to the public and chat with people just to overcome social anxiety.
A small, solid step does not seem to be as much, but with all the little victory you will find yourself closer to your goals and can even find enough time to start coming naturally.