"What matters is not necessarily the size of the dog in the fight – it's the size of the fight in the dog." ~ Generally Dwight Eisenhower
I was completely taken by this quote, as you could say. I'm not the biggest dog in any fight. Heck, if it was a struggle, I'd be somewhere else. In the past days, my confidence was in my life. I was not ready or able to interact and make friends, so I spent most of my children alone. It was not until a few years later that I found that almost all we can do is struggle – as long as we are ready to be part of it.
At school my struggles were my views. I remember getting a very good talent when I was 13, I arrived at class at 14:00. But when I was 15, almost flunked from the class with 3 left 8 people. It was rather heavy! I was pretty ruined and this was not even my final paper! I remember going home and writing a lot of flipchart papers, all my goals, and encouraging words, and put them around my room so I could see them every day. Next year I struck the chance to get top 4 in my class (I was tied to the coolest boy in our class) and went to school of your choice.
Even then I was beaten down because the next challenge was leadership. I had literally zilch in a leadership experience. While I was at the junior high school (17 years old at the time) I was nominated and voted as the president of the Student Council. Unfortunately we went on a rather tumultuous time. Common circumstances sought our leadership team and it became overdue as many were interested in quitting. Fortunately, I had very good friends there and they were good enough to give me a reason to continue fighting.
In 1995 one of my first speech started. It was an absolute mess, considering I was a partner of another senior coach and the audience liked him much better than me. When the tables came back, I was literally broken. However, I took the pain to read it and find out what I had to do and I had never faced such a terrible assessment.
I suppose all of these stories are describing once. Sometimes it does not matter what you do but the spirit you carry with you when you take action. We were all meant to experience sadness and joy, failure, and success so that when a negative experience tries us, we learn to evaluate the positive side and work better. After all, it's not the destination that thinks, but the puzzles you put in and the thrill of the fight, it's not!